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Healing....

8/31/2014

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What wounds are you bandaging right now? 

What are you using to cover them up?

We all have wounds. Those things that happened in our lives that scared us...that left us hurting...that left us feeling inadequate, inferior and even feeling broken inside.

We all have wounds.

Have you made peace with yours? Or do you use drugs and alcohol as a way to avoid your life? Do you seek to get lost in a bottle of alcohol or pills? Is it a toke, a joint or maybe a line? Do you harm yourself in the hopes of numbing all the ways you're feeling your pain?...pain is not only physical...it's emotional and mental too.

Maybe you're dealing with your wounds by soothing yourself with food. Does it make you feel better? Do you then chastise yourself afterwards for what you've eaten? It's a vicious circle that makes you turn to the food again and again because your thoughts and feelings go round and round. Does food soothe your pain? Or maybe you're avoiding food. Do you care enough about yourself to eat? Do you have the energy to cook or to prepare food? Have you even gone shopping yet?

Are you a work-a-holic who avoids home? Do you leave early from home so you're the first one in the office? Do you stay at work to avoid family and/or social obligations? Do you bring your work home with you so you have a convenient excuse to hide yourself away from your life and what's going on in it? Do you have children? A spouse? Are you plugged in with what is going on in their lives while your head is in your work?

Sex. Sex is another way you can try to bandage your wounds. Your heart is aching and you feel empty inside. You're wanting the companionship from another so you go from partner to partner never settling down because something is always "wrong" isn't it? From bed to bed, partner to partner, you go trying to fill the emptiness you feel. You may even engage in dangerous sexual behaviours too. Do you always use protection? Do you worry about what may happen if you don't? Do you care? What are you seeking when going from partner to partner?  

Maybe how you're bandaging your wound isn't discussed here? There are many many ways we can try and bandage our wounds. If your's isn't here..what do you do? How are you managing your wounds? 

What has caused your wounds will differ from those around you, what links us together is that we all have them, those wounds deep inside we try to hide. There may even be some wounds you're hoping no one will ever know about. And sometimes we don't always react and manage them in the most caring ways for ourselves. We can't avoid our wounds. They are a part of who we are, but we also have the choice and the ability to decide how our wounds will impact our lives and how we will care for ourselves when feeling our pain.

Yes, things may have happened within your life that has left a wound within you, things you can cannot change, but you have the choice now to whether it will define you or will you rise above where you've been? The past is gone, it's happened. The future is yours to make.

Make peace with your wounds so they no longer define you, no longer hurt you. Heal and release yourself.

take good care of you okay?
1 Comment
Lisa
8/14/2016 04:14:07 pm

I think I have used all of the above mentioned ways to avoid my pain. And then some. One of the biggest was when my mom died from ALS over 10 years ago. I then had a confluct with my dad and we stopped communicating. I recently got the chance to visit him and meet my new step-mom and heal the rift between us and close some of the worst wounds. It was wonderful. I still have things that cause me to retreat into my own little world but I now use much healthier ways to ease the pain such as books, music, meditation, and gardening. Each day presents new challenges and old memories but I am making progress one day at a time. And that's truly the only way to get through life... one day at a time.

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