How we talk to ourselves when we are experiencing our pain and/or emotions can either diminish us or it can empower and promote us. When you feel the negativity or you notice that you're talking about yourself in the negative, face yourself in the mirror and say your script. Repeat the script until you are able to maintain eye contact with yourself. When you see disbelief in your eyes, challenge it! Why do you not deserve to be considered and spoken to positively...even by your own words? Break the negative self talk with what you know to be the true positives of who you are. Live in those positives instead of your negatives. Own all that you are...even the good stuff too!
Here is an example...
"I know you're hurting, but we can get through this together. You are stronger than you believe yourself to be. You have faced many things in your life and you can deal with this too. Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are. You are unique and you are loved. You can and will get through this. It may take time but you will. Hang in there kiddo and don't ever give up. "
You can even jot down all the things you like about yourself as a positive script.
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Whatever you write down, it needs to be positive, encouraging and promoting of your dreams, goals and wishes. Take the time please and write down all the things you know are the good of who you are. Those things didn't change because of your pain, they will only change when you stop living who you truly are. You are more than your pain...do you believe that?
How you talk to yourself when you are feeling your pain can either build you up or take you down...which direction will you choose?