We know the feeling of physical pain...the body aches, the muscle spasms...the tingling and numbness too and even more still...it's a feeling we can feel in our bodies and it hurts. But you know what? That's not where it ends though...does it? No.
When the physical pain comes and it's unbearable or unrelenting...do your emotions start to hurt too? You know...your feelings...do they hurt too? Do you ever feel...like a burden or a bother? lonely and isolated? sad? What are your feelings like? Can you name them? I gave just a few examples and there are more...but how do you feel? How would you describe it?
What about the mental pain? What is that like? Do you ever feel...depressed? anxious? agoraphobic? self-abusive? Just like the feelings, I gave just a few examples...and there are more still...but do you ever feel like this too? What is your mental pain like? How would you describe it?
When my feelings of depression set in, I find my emotions are darker. And when my emotions are dark it only triggers the feelings of depression even more and then the anxiety sets in and so do a few others. It's a circle really. Do you ever notice this in your life?
I've also noticed that when my emotions and mental "abilities" aren't up to snuff, my physical pain is more. And when I feel the physical more it can also trigger the emotional to increase too. And you know what? my mental pain usually goes up as well. It's a circle...and one I can get caught in if I'm not careful.
I remind you guys all the time to do the things for you to make you feel good, the things that make you smile...the things that help you to live beyond your pain even if for only a little while...I encourage you to take good care of you...and the reason I do that is because that's how we can learn to make it through and we can break the circle.
When our thoughts and emotions go dark...it's up to us to care for them. To remind ourselves of the good in our life too. It's up to us to change the conversation we have with ourselves when we're all alone. When the mental pain sets in? well we need to care for ourselves too. We need us to do what we can to bring us through without leaving the scars behind. The same goes for the physical pain...we need to learn how to care for ourselves in a whole new way...a more positive and loving way...a more encouraging and supportive way...we need us.
What we do or don't do for our pain...the physical...the emotional and the mental too...will either see us through our pain or it will see us under it...trapped in the circle. You've been there...I know you have, and you may still visit occasionally too...and that's okay...but we can't live there. We just can't!
When you feel your emotions are hurting...learn how to soothe and care for them. When you feel you're mentally hurting...learn how to soothe and care for yourself. When you feel the physical of your pain...yeah...learn how to soothe and care for that too okay? Get to know your needs and what you can do you for you when you need it. All I ask...is that you do it without leaving scars behind...the kind you can see and the kind you can't...be gentle with you.
We can't change that we hurt...but we can change what do about it when we feel it. I hope you'll choose you...and please know you're worth the effort. YOU need YOU.
take good care of you please