What we say to ourselves is just as damaging to our self-esteem as anything said from someone we may interact with. Why wouldn't it? We know our sore spots better than anyone else.
When we use positive personal scripts we are empowering ourselves within our lives. We can accept that we may make a mistake in life, and when we do, we don't beat ourselves up for it. Yes, pain may be a part of who we are, but it's not all of who we are. In many ways, who we were before the pain is still the same. When we are positive in what we say to ourselves, we can see a life beyond pain, and we're making plans for living it.
Try this exercise...
Take a piece of paper and while holding it, repeat the negative things you say to yourself. For every negative you say to yourself, rip a piece of the paper off and throw it to the floor. When you are done, take a look at the piece of paper in your hand. What does it look like now that you are finished? Do you still have a piece of the paper to hold on to? Now take a look at the scattered pieces on the floor. These bits of paper represent your self-esteem that you've just torn and tossed to the floor.
When you use negative scripts to talk with yourself, you are treating yourself just like that piece of paper. Keep your personal scripts positive when talking with yourself. Encourage and empower yourself, instead of beating yourself up for things you can't change.
Be gentle when talking to yourself okay?
Even our own words can hurt, leave bruises we can't see, but last a long time.