While feeling your pain...have you ever done something to "help" but which left scars behind?
I have and I have the scars to prove it...ones you can see and even ones you can't...but I have them.
Self harm comes in many forms and it's not just physical...it can be emotional and it can be mental too.
Sometimes the ways we talk to ourselves isn't always nice nor is it helpful...and sometimes too our thoughts can be what causes the physical self harm cycle to start.
Is that true for you? It was for me...and I say was because I don't leave scars behind anymore. They've healed...but they do remain as a reminder of where I've been and what I choose do differently now for myself moving forward.
When I was causing harm to myself...I couldn't feel the pain I was causing to myself...all I felt was the relief. It was something I could control and it took my mind off the things I couldn't stop thinking about...the things I couldn't control...and it made me numb. Learning new and different coping skills was hard...I won't lie to you. This behaviour had been a part of my life for a long time and it took a long time to stop and to start doing something differently.
I'm not going to tell you that just because I did it you can too. You can! but not because I did it. YOU can do it because you choose to....because you want something different for yourself moving forward...YOU want something different. So instead of gaining control by causing harm to yourself...gain control by learning how to soothe, help, nurture, care for and support yourself in new and more healing ways....YOU CAN DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!
When the feelings come that cause you to start...what can you do differently? Do you believe there are options? Do you believe you're strong enough to stop and to begin a different way to cope? I do! and I know you can.
please...if self harm behaviours are a part of your life....know that you have options and there is help available when you're ready...
take good care of you okay...and if I may ask...isn't it time you stopped leaving scars behind and started healing?
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