For me...the morning after the night before...I'm physically exhausted...emotionally spent...and mentally burnt out. My eyes are usually puffy, red and swollen and I've got a headache. My brain hurts from thinking and I'm left feeling weak to say the least. I'm tired beyond being tired and I hurt.
What causes my nights like that? well...sometimes it's my thoughts keeping me up going around my head...and other times it's my body and the pain I feel. There are nights too when it's both combined and I can't cope...I can't sleep...I'm hurting too much.
When these nights come I'm so glad for my computer and the internet...being able to do this website and the Facebook page too have helped tremendously. Sometimes I turn to my music and occupy my mind with something else...sometimes I'll catch up with my PVR...and other times I'll go for a soak in the tub. Relaxation and visualization of the beach is a thought I use most often to calm these nights. My coping skills are what gets me through the night and into the day after.
When the thoughts and feelings of the night before mix into the morning after...more coping skills are needed. When this happens I need to make the conscious choice not to accept the thought and to replace it with something else more productive and helpful. It really is a choice...I can keep myself down or I can do what I need to lift myself up. It's my job and no one else can do it for me. It helps too to remind myself of what is past and what is present and what I can change moving forward.
Surviving the morning after the night before...sometimes it takes a few days to get myself back and I'm learning to be okay with that...to be patient, caring, and supportive of my needs. Beating myself up won't help me heal...loving myself will. These days do pass and I need to take good care of myself until it does.
Do you ever experience the morning after the night before? What do you do during the night? What do you do in the morning? What can you do differently to help yourself through them when it does happen? What triggers these nights for you? Give the questions some thought okay and I hope the next time you're having one of these nights that turns into the morning after...that you love yourself enough to take good care of you, because it really does matter what you do for you or what you don't do for you.
take good care of you okay?