The demands on our time come from two sources:
- Internal demands – the demands we place on ourselves for what we want to accomplish not only in our day to day lives but also our dreams and goals for what we want in our life
- External demands – the demands placed on us by our jobs, society, social and religious groups, even our families and friends, for what they expect, need or want from us and our time
Have you ever found yourself feeling resentful for all the demands placed on your time? Be honest. Have you ever had a busy day at work, with everyone asking things of you, wanting something from you, feeling like you're run off your feet, only to be met at the door at home, faced by the demands of life there, and all you want to do is close the door to your room, but know you can't? Does it make you want to avoid coming home? Do you resent the people close in your life because they too have demands of you and your time?
Do you take the time you need to gather yourself from a hectic day before you gear up for family life or the demands of your time after work? If you're like most people you probably rolled your eyes and said something flippant in response. Most people would say they just don't have the time. I would argue, that it's up to you to make the time for you.
When we don't take the time for ourselves to recharge and we focus our energies on everyone else, we could find ourselves feeling anxious, grumpy, miserable, stressed out, always out of time and extremely unhappy with our lives and ourselves. If we focus our energies on the needs of others, we may even begin to find ourselves resenting the people who are asking us for our time.
Now that pain is a part of your life, you need to give it some consideration in your day as well. Learning to address and support your needs is even more important now. Pain has a way of increasing the stress of everyday life and how you live and function within it.
When we plan for our pain we are better able to manage it's impact.
take good care of you