Can you remember who you were, before chronic illness changed your life?
SERIOUSLY?!?! are you flecking kidding me? What an insensitive question! Of course I can remember! Some days it's hard as hell not to think of anything else. I'm reminded constantly I'm different now and my life and body will never be the same again. Do I remember? Damn right I do! Do I wish I could forget? Yeah some days I do.
Has someone ever asked you that question? I've been asked and it hurt! It hurt a lot! I've heard many other insensitive and hurtful comments over the years and it leaves me thinking that some people are just a special kind of stupid.
Is that too much to ask? Really? Is it? If you wouldn't like hearing it...don't say it someone else! It's that simple...THINK before you SPEAK! It's okay to ask questions but do so to gain an understanding and to support someone...not to put them down okay?
Life is hard and it can hurt even when you're not already living with pain...and I just wish people would be nicer to one another and to help each other out more. Maybe it's naive of me, but that's my world wish.
And here's an after note for us: Yes we may be different now in some ways but not everything about us has changed. Instead of focusing on who we were...we need to start accepting, loving and caring for who we are now and who we are becoming.