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I'm Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired RANT....Silence & Words

2/14/2016

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Note: Usually when I go on a rant...it requires a language warning or some other kind of heads up to you. I will do my best this time to watch my language...however...my attitude will have free reign. You may find this entry triggering and I do apologize and please know that that is not my intent. Read with caution just in case. 

Now onto the RANT....

I've been saying for a long time now that words have power. Words have the power to leave bruises that cannot be seen but last a very long time. Words have the power to lift us up or to tear us apart. Even the words we say to ourselves...has this power. Words can be used to communicate many things and even the words not said...can communicate as well.

But...do you know what else has this kind of power? Silence. Silence can be just as powerful as our words can be. Silence can also leave bruises we cannot see and silence can be either supportive or it can be hurtful and damaging. Yes...even silence...is a powerful communication tool. 
When you try to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs to someone you love and you're met with a "What the F%&K is wrong with you"...well? these words hurt...and it prevents someone from feeling comfortable to open up in the future.

(mini RANT - comments like this does not show love nor does it show support. How would you feel if you heard these words when you were hurting and you took the risk to reach out to talk to someone? You wouldn't like it would you? I didn't think so.) 

When you take the time to share something meaningful to you with someone...whether it be in a note, an email, or even a text message, or an old-fashioned conversation and it's ignored...not even acknowledged that it was received...well? this silence hurts...and it prevents someone from being willing to open up in the future and to put themselves out there only to be ignored by you in the future. 

(mini RANT - no one likes to be ignored and really? would it hurt you to take 30 seconds out of your busy day to simply acknowledge the effort? to say thank you? did you ever think that maybe they're struggling to share their thoughts, feelings, or needs...and the only way they can is by sharing a poem that seems to say it better than they could? would it really hurt you to give a simple acknowledgement?)

When you spend a lot of time with someone and you are active in their lives and they in yours...doing things together...and then all of a sudden this person just disappears, stops talking to you, stops being a part of your life...without an explanation...well? this kind of silence hurts...and friendships fail.
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(mini RANT - you cannot ignore someone...disappear and no longer interact with them...and still expect them to be friends. Treating people like this is just not cool! it's rather rude actually)

Silence and words have power. 

Having someone sit with you quietly supportive...good stuff! 
Having someone to encourage you silently or with words...good stuff!
Having someone ignore you...not good stuff!
Having someone belittle your efforts...not good stuff!

Silence and words have power! use them wisely okay? 

end of rant for now...
1 Comment
Laurie Hanowell
3/11/2016 08:25:40 am

I hate when I rant around anyone because they will soon disappear from your life. People can't handle seeing me weak and needing help. They end up leaving me either way....

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