Now let me ask you this...how well did all that thinking...all that raging...all that remembering...help you heal and move forward? It didn't help me much...nope! not at all. It kept me stuck, kept me angry, and it kept me wallowing in all that I thought I wasn't anymore and would never be again. I gave up because I wasn't me anymore. It was a painful circle that I kept myself in with my own thoughts.
You know it's true. Your own thoughts are keeping you here...just like mine did. Now don't get me wrong...I do believe this stage is a part of our healing. We have to get angry, we have to be sad...we lost something. Don't deny that. But also please? don't stay there wallowing in it. It won't get you anywhere but deeper in the hole. And it's time to climb out!