When I first saw this it made me stop and think...to remember the friends who have stopped calling...to why I do certain things and to how my life has been impacted by my anxiety and my pain. I thought a lot!
I'll be honest...sometimes my anxiety has stopped me from doing certain things and just being asked to go somewhere can actually cause me some anxiety at times. I instantly give thought to my pain and what it will be like. I think to what the environment will be like (I don't handle big loud crowds very well). I give thought to what I will need to help me cope and mange through it all and I think too to what I'll feel like when I come home...and I've stopped doing certain things.
Has this ever happened to you? Do friends still call to ask you out? We may not always go but it does feel good to be asked though doesn't it? Yeah it does. And sometimes too when we've gathered our courage and went...we had a good time. So what do we do? It's hard to ask our friends to keep asking knowing they will most likely be rejected and declined...so do we ask that of them? or do we ask ourselves to gather our courage more often and go instead of saying no? hmm...And I wonder too...are they shutting us out or are we shutting us out? I know there are days when we just can't but I know too that there are days when we "think" we can't but we're just too scared. We choose fear instead and we say no...not today.
We can't feel guilty for saying no on the days we really can't but I think we should also ask ourselves if we are saying no because we can't or because of our fear? And I think we should also ask ourselves if there is anything we can do to help ourselves to say yes instead? What coping skills can we bring with us to help us be more active in our lives? How can we soothe ourselves when we have been? What can we do for us?
See? I told you this made me think...a lot! but I hope it does for you too and I hope you will choose to live your life for you instead of your pain and fear of it.
Just my thoughts...
We can't feel guilty for saying no on the days we really can't but I think we should also ask ourselves if we are saying no because we can't or because of our fear? And I think we should also ask ourselves if there is anything we can do to help ourselves to say yes instead? What coping skills can we bring with us to help us be more active in our lives? How can we soothe ourselves when we have been? What can we do for us?
See? I told you this made me think...a lot! but I hope it does for you too and I hope you will choose to live your life for you instead of your pain and fear of it.
Just my thoughts...
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