The title of this meme gets my goat a little bit. If I were to be honest? I said something mean and nasty when I read the name of the blog....brainlessblogger. (the name is fitting!)

What bothered me? Well, the title....Signs the pain is getting the best of you. 

Seriously? if those are the signs that my pain is getting the best of me...might as well bury me now. 

Sometimes? these signs are the sad truth of a hurting life...and NOT that our pain has gotten the best of us. 

Sometimes we have to hibernate because the cold just hurts too much. Not that we don't want to be outside...it just HURTS! more than we're able to deal with so we make the choice to stay inside where it's warm.

Social interactions are all via social media on-line? Sometimes that's the only place we can find support and understanding without all the judgment. It helps to be in contact with people living a hurting life just like I am. They "get" me.

​Tossing and turning trying to find a comfortable position to sleep in is the truth of a hurting body. It's not easy nor comfortable for us to find sleep when we hurt and often we can't sleep through the night. Yes it's frustrating for our partners....BUT....it's frustrating for us too. If you didn't already know...sleep and pain are NOT friends.

Happy Friday to you! How has your week been? Did you take some time for you and your needs? I hope so, but if you haven't...I hope you'll find some time this weekend. Your needs are important! 

We can't change that we hurt, but we can change what we do for ourselves when we're feeling it. And that means we need to learn how to care for, nurture and support ourselves...mentally, emotionally, and physically too. We need to do the things that help us through our pain. 

What do I need right now? 
What soothes my pain? 

I hope you'll ask yourself those two questions and when you answer yourself? Well, I hope you'll go and do it! All I ask is that whatever you do for you, do it without leaving scars behind...please?! 

Happy Friday to you! I hope the sun is shining on you. 

take good care of you and your needs too
​Tammy

You are not defective, powerless, or insignificant. Forgive the mistakes of the past and leave behind the meaningless cycle of blaming yourself. Do not make your wounds become you.

​~~Dodinsky~~




picture taken in Grand Bend ON

ha! yeah ;) 

When I first read this piece I had mixed feelings about it. Yes! I am trying, and I know you are too. We're pushing ourselves through things that would make others crumble. We push ourselves through things that many don't understand or can even see. We push ourselves. Hard. Sometimes our expectations are unrealistic.

But you know what? Sometimes pushing ourselves is just another way for us to ignore ourselves and our needs.

You know it's true. When you push yourself through the pain instead of resting. When you push yourself through the fog trying to feel "normal". When you push yourself through the judgement instead of acknowledging how you truly feel. When you push yourself...are you ignoring yourself? your needs? 

Some think that the only way to get through life is to push yourself. I disagree. Sometimes what we need the most is to rest, to do the things that make us feel good, the things that make us smile, that lets us laugh and enjoy our lives...that's how we can through this thing called life. 

We need to encourage, nurture, love, accept, support, care for and forgive ourselves. We need to do what we can as we're able and we need to stop too when our bodies and minds need a break. We're only human. 

Don't push yourself beyond your breaking point. Just do the best you can each and every day and know that it's enough. 

take good care of you please and your needs too
​Tammy 

​Love yourself first because that's who you'll be spending the rest of your life with.

~~Unknown~~

yeah...I'm still learning the tactful part

Hello good morning and how are you? Happy Friday to you!

I don't know about you, but this week has gone by in a blink and I think I missed it...and not much has gotten done around here either. I'm torn between tidying up my house and chilling out. Between putting away the laundry and just being glad that at least it's washed and folded. 

It's not easy balancing our needs against our "responsibilities" but I'm here to say that our needs are our responsibility and sometimes? they have to come first. 

How was your week? Did you find some time for you and your needs? If you haven't yet...will you this weekend? 

take good care of you and I hope you have a great weekend
​Tammy

You are not defective, powerless, or insignificant. Forgive the mistakes of the past and leave behind the meaningless cycle of blaming yourself. Do not make your wounds become you.

~~Dodinsky~~










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Picture taken on the pond.

Living a life with chronic pain/illness can make us feel like we're alone and that no one understands. Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever shared your feelings and heard the words "me too"? yeah...those two words can feel like a hug some days. 

The more I thought about it, even more words came to mind...

I'm here
I'll help
I'm listening
I believe
I understand
There's hope
Stay strong
You're brave

Words have power! The words we hear from others...the words we say to ourselves...words are powerful and they can impact how we think and feel about our pain, our lives, and even ourselves.

If you're going to talk to yourself...please...use the words that feel like a hug instead? And if you're talking to someone else?  I hope you'll hug them with your words. 

take good care of you please