to all the wallets on life support 

Hello good morning and how are you? It's Friday baby and New Years eve is only one night away. Have you recouperated from your Christmas holiday yet? Are you ready to ring in the new year? 

The first few days after the holidays seems to go by in a blur doesn't it? Days when you're not even sure what day it is...days when your body just says no. If it's been like this for you too, I hope you take the time you need and do the things that help you through.

If you have plans for tomorrow...give some thought to what you can do for you before you go out, what can you bring along with you to help you through the night and what can you do for you on Sunday when you're                                                                                               hurting from your activities? 

​                                                                                          Take good care of you and Happy Friday to you! 

I wish I had seen this piece in the earlier days of my pain...maybe then I would have managed it better...maybe.

Truth is...living with chronic pain isn't just about living with the pain. It was a painful lesson that took me many years to learn, and honestly? I'm still learning it...learning to live it...learning.

Living a hurting life really isn't about our pain though...it's about the fear, depression and the panic we feel and how we cope with it. It's about our relationships and how our pain can impact them. It's about the feelings of guilt we feel and all the reasons we feel it and it's about grieving for the life we lost or can no longer live the way we want anymore. It's about the struggles we face daily and even our own negative thoughts OH...and the negativity of others (can't forget that because yes! we live with that too).

But one thing our hurting life is also? it's ours to live to the best of our abilities.

(meme found at Trigeminal Neuralgia on Facebook)

​I hope you have a safe and warm holiday weekend.

Have you ever felt guilty for needing help? Have you ever felt like a burden to those around you? I have too and recently...I had a conversation with someone I love and respect, and this is what she told me...

When you feel guilty for accepting my help, it diminishes the joy I get when I help you.

BOOM! I never thought of it that way. Did you? 

But you know what? the more I thought about it...the more I couldn't deny it. I know I have felt joy and even other good feelings too when I've been able to help someone, to make a difference in their lives...it feels good.

Have you ever noticed that when you're helping others, it can even help you to feel alive again, to feel worthwhile, or even to be needed. When you've been able to help someone...what did that feel like for you? 

Now imagine the person you helped telling you or even crying to you how guilty they feel for even needing help? It kinda takes the shine of things doesn't it? yes it does.

Well here we are...two more sleeps till Christmas Day and it's Friday. How was your week? Did you spend any time in the malls this week? Crazy isn't it?! it won't be long now and the holidays will be over and a new year will begin.

Are you ready for the family? Do you need a break to gather yourself? Have you packed your coping skills yet?

If the holiday rush or even the holiday blues have you feeling frazzled...what can you do for you today? 

Why not take some time today and go do the things that make you feel good?...something that makes you smile, something that helps you to enjoy your life, something that soothes and cares for you needs...do it for you.  


Take good care of you and your needs too. Happy Friday to you! 

Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go. 

~~Hermann Hess~~







Picture taken by Pam T.