Changing what we perceive to be a negative in our lives into a positive can be a challenge. Being able to take something that has changed your life drastically and seeing something good, is within our strength to do. I believe there have been times in your life when you have already done that. You just don't realize it yet.
We have all experienced things in life we wish we hadn't, moments in our life where we have felt pain, loss, doubt or despair. You may have even experienced things you never thought you would survive...but you have! And you're still here...still changing to adapt...still surviving...stronger!
When we experience a negative in our lives we have the choice to stay under it or to rise above it, learn from it and move on. When you learn from the negatives in your life, you are beginning to change them into positives. You are learning what you do not want in your life (-) and learning what you do want in your life (+).
We have all experienced things in life we wish we hadn't, moments in our life where we have felt pain, loss, doubt or despair. You may have even experienced things you never thought you would survive...but you have! And you're still here...still changing to adapt...still surviving...stronger!
When we experience a negative in our lives we have the choice to stay under it or to rise above it, learn from it and move on. When you learn from the negatives in your life, you are beginning to change them into positives. You are learning what you do not want in your life (-) and learning what you do want in your life (+).
Sometimes the negatives we experience in life come from the people in our lives. The people we share our lives with have a great impact on our thoughts and actions at times. It's a hard question to consider but let me ask you this....are your negative thoughts about yourself and your life just a re-hashed version of someone else's thoughts or words? If you are saying yes, or even a possible maybe....stop! Do not let the opinions of others cloud your thoughts on you.
Sometimes the people in our lives, although they mean well, can be a negative influence. I'd like to believe that they do truly mean well and may even try to use reverse psychology when talking, trying to motivate us, but their negativity and put downs aren't helpful. Dealing with these people in our lives is a challenge. How do you handle this in your life? Do you absorb the negative making it your own, or do you listen without owning their words, holding on to who you know you are?
Changing our own thoughts on the happenings in our lives from a negative to a positive can be hard...but it can be done. When I was first injured I couldn't see any positive at all...I seemed to be surrounded by nothing but negatives. But then I saw it...my one positive that I held on to and used to motivate other positive changes in my life.
When I was working, my hours were crazy and I would often work double and triple shifts between jobs. This meant my daughter spent a lot of time sleeping at my parents house while they cared for her. Many a night my daughter would ask me "Mommy where am I sleeping tonight?" After my accident that question was never asked again, for my daughter was sleeping in her own bed every night in her own home. Now if that isn't a blessing among the negatives I don't know what is. I hated having to be away from my daughter but being a single parent with two jobs meant I had to work a lot too. Sure my accident meant I lost my job but I gained my daughter back.
It can take a long time before we can see any positives from the negatives in our lives...but it is up to us to look for them. There can be a silver lining to even the darkest of clouds. Use your negatives to motivate the positives you want in your life.
If the people in your life are your negative, you may need to separate yourself from them too or at least learn how not to let them bring you down to their level of negativity. It's not easy but when you want something better for your life you often need to make hard choices and decisions about what is best for you and not for others around you. It's okay to think of your needs and your wants and it's okay to go after them!
Change your negatives to positives...take what you don't want in your life and change it to what you want for your life moving forward. You can do it for you!
take good care of you eh?
Sometimes the people in our lives, although they mean well, can be a negative influence. I'd like to believe that they do truly mean well and may even try to use reverse psychology when talking, trying to motivate us, but their negativity and put downs aren't helpful. Dealing with these people in our lives is a challenge. How do you handle this in your life? Do you absorb the negative making it your own, or do you listen without owning their words, holding on to who you know you are?
Changing our own thoughts on the happenings in our lives from a negative to a positive can be hard...but it can be done. When I was first injured I couldn't see any positive at all...I seemed to be surrounded by nothing but negatives. But then I saw it...my one positive that I held on to and used to motivate other positive changes in my life.
When I was working, my hours were crazy and I would often work double and triple shifts between jobs. This meant my daughter spent a lot of time sleeping at my parents house while they cared for her. Many a night my daughter would ask me "Mommy where am I sleeping tonight?" After my accident that question was never asked again, for my daughter was sleeping in her own bed every night in her own home. Now if that isn't a blessing among the negatives I don't know what is. I hated having to be away from my daughter but being a single parent with two jobs meant I had to work a lot too. Sure my accident meant I lost my job but I gained my daughter back.
It can take a long time before we can see any positives from the negatives in our lives...but it is up to us to look for them. There can be a silver lining to even the darkest of clouds. Use your negatives to motivate the positives you want in your life.
If the people in your life are your negative, you may need to separate yourself from them too or at least learn how not to let them bring you down to their level of negativity. It's not easy but when you want something better for your life you often need to make hard choices and decisions about what is best for you and not for others around you. It's okay to think of your needs and your wants and it's okay to go after them!
Change your negatives to positives...take what you don't want in your life and change it to what you want for your life moving forward. You can do it for you!
take good care of you eh?
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